Reb Shmuley's main thrust generally seems to be that the parents are the focus of the family - they are the cornerstones of the family. Several episodes seem to start off with the parents saying their kids are either out of control, not happy, etc. Then Reb Shmuley comes on and starts showing the parents how they are performing as parents as well as how they parent based on themselves. Aha! They don't realize that the problem isn't their children's, per se, but rather something stemming from themselves. Two of Reb Shmuley's aphorisms (or Shmuleyisms) on this idea are the following (from the Shmuleyisms page):
You cannot have healthy children without having a healthy family environment.Also today (Monday), I missed Reb Shmuley being on Oprah's show, which was unfortunate, but fortunately, the Oprah Winfrey Show website posted on the show. Apparently, the family from the last episode was on (see 1, 2, 3, and 4), as well as one from another episode (1, 2, and 3) (in addition to two others not from the show).
There are no bad children. Only bad parents. When our kids act up, it’s time to look in the mirror.
Reb Shmuley is certainly an interesting figure (I was reading up about him today online (there was a certain article that I just tried googling from about 6-7 years ago about him that was somewhat extensive) (albeit during the Oprah Show) and find him to be interesting.) - one particular line sticks out to me (from another article on him, "Who is Shmuley Boteach?" from five years ago):
To get Jews interested in the Jewish world, you have to get the non-Jews interested. The Jews will follow what the non-Jews are doing.As the article immediately points out, most Orthodox Jews certainly don't agree with this point of view. Nevertheless, it's a smart point, though the mechanics of it need to be worked out. When he says "Jewish world", I think he's meaning the Torah, but I could be off.
Anyways, I was happy with the show and enjoyed its ten episode run for its inaugural season and hope to see more Reb Shmuley.
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